How to Talk to Your Child About Anxiety

If your child has been complaining of stomachaches before school, melting down over small things, or asking a lot of "what if" questions — you're not alone. Anxiety in children rarely looks the way parents expect. It often shows up in the body, in behavior, or in avoidance long before a child can put words to it.

Start by naming it, gently

Kids often feel relieved when a trusted adult helps them put a name to what they're feeling. You might try: "I noticed your tummy has been hurting a lot in the mornings. Sometimes when we feel worried, our body feels it first. Do you think that might be happening?"

Naming feelings isn't the same as fixing them. You don't need to solve it in the same conversation — just showing your child that their experience makes sense is powerful.

Avoid two common traps

• Minimizing: "You'll be fine, it's not a big deal." This teaches kids to hide worry rather than share it.
• Over-reassuring: "I promise nothing bad will happen." Anxiety loves certainty, and no parent can promise it.

Instead, try validating and staying steady: "I can see this feels really big. I'm here, and we'll figure it out together."

Build a small toolbox together

Choose one or two coping strategies your child likes and practice them when they're calm — not in the middle of a meltdown. Belly breathing, naming five things they can see, or squeezing a stuffed animal are all simple starts.

When to consider therapy

If anxiety is getting in the way of school, sleep, friendships, or family life — or if it's been going on for a few weeks and isn't easing up — a therapist who works with kids can help. Therapy gives your child a safe place to practice skills and gives you tools to support them at home.

If you're in Charlotte or anywhere in North Carolina, I'd love to talk with you about whether therapy could be a good fit. Book a free 15-minute consultation — no pressure, just a conversation.